Vocal Technique

Overcome the Fear of Singing in front of Others with EFT Tapping

Photo by  Ron Smith  on  Unsplash

Photo by Ron Smith on Unsplash

This week instead of writing you a blog post, I have made a video showing you a powerful technique to overcome the fear of singing in front of a person/people.
 
I have found that during my career as a singing teacher, when students first come to a lesson, they are super nervous. I have even had some students look as though they are going to either be physically ill or bolt out the door.
 
I can 100% relate to this. When I began my lessons at JMI (Jazz Music Institute) and the Conservatorium, I felt exactly the same way.  
 
In fact, it took me five or six lessons to feel as though I could be myself as well as sing like myself in front of my teachers. 
 
When you boil it all down, it really is the fear of being judged and/or confirmed that you’re not good enough.
 
In this episode, I will show you a practice called Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) that can obliterate any old patterns and beliefs that are holding you back from A) starting your singing journey and/or B) filling you with massive doubt about your ability.

Please let me know how you go with tapping. Look, you may feel like a galah at first, but I promise this will bring amazing results. 

Talk to you next week! 

Mel X

P.S. The next video in my Beginner Singer’s Course will be in the Student Portal later today. You get access to this when you book in for your first singing lesson with me.

P.S.S. Are you on instagram? I share a lot (perhaps too much) over there on subjects such as singing, creating, business and my air fryer cooking. Come on over! https://www.instagram.com/mellathouras/

How Essential Oils are Transforming my Vocal Health and Supporting my Family

If you see me on social media, you probably hear me bang on about doTERRA’s essential oils and how bloody amazing they are.

So I thought I’d put pen to paper (well, hands to laptop) and tell you how they are supporting me, my voice and my family.

I’m feeling pretty inspired to write this today because only yesterday the oils had an incredible impact on my Grandmother Mavis.

Grandma woke up sick as a dog on her 80th birthday. We had a massive party planned for her in the evening, with family coming from all over Australia to be there.

So on top of being sick, she was also anxious about the fact that she may not be well enough for her party.

When I arrived at her house with my kit of oils, she was pale and had severe stomach pains. So first things first, we applied doTERRA’s DigestZen on her stomach to relieve the pain. I also made up a blend of:  

- Frankincense (helps inflammation and has a calming effect on the nervous system)

- On Guard (supports a healthy immune system and is very uplifting)

- Lavender (reduces anxious feelings).

I mixed this with coconut oil and applied it to her chest, temples, behind her ears, and on her spine.  

Within ten minutes, Grandma’s stomach ache had gone and colour returned to her face. Within half an hour she was up, talking to the family and getting ready for her party. Speaking of her party, she was the last one to leave at 12 am!

I can’t tell you what this means to me to see my family well and happy! My Mum for instance, who has struggled with her sleeping for a large chunk of her adult life, is now going to bed before 10 pm and not waking up until 7 in the morning. This has significantly improved her energy levels, not to mention her physical and mental well-being.

As for myself, I find myself happier and healthier. I use my doTERRA Home Essentials Kit on a daily basis and take the Life Long Vitality Pack, which are doTERRA’s awesome supplements.

I will write more about this in more detail but here is a quick snapshot of how I use the oils for my mental and physical health as well as to support my vocal health.

1.  Every night before I go to bed I rub diluted DigestZen in fractionated coconut oil and rub it on my stomach clockwise. Why do I do this? For singers, acid reflux is a bloody killer for the larynx, in particular, the vocal folds. So to avoid this, I use DigestZen and so far, so good!

2.  I’m OBSESSED with Frankincense! If you could own one oil, this would be your guy. He’s the King of all the oils because he comes with a string of benefits. Namely, he targets inflammation in the body. So I dilute Frankincense and Lemon in fractionated coconut oil and rub it on my throat every day. I’ve noticed massive changes in my vocal health! I don’t seem to experience as much fatigue as I used to. I have to point out however that consistent vocal exercises and staying hydrated are also important factors at play here.  

3. I LOVE lavender. I diffuse it at night time and from time to time rub it on my throat region to relax my vocal muscles. I also put it on the side of my temples if I ever get a headache, which is becoming less and less frequent these days. It’s also now part of my skincare regime and is clearing up facial redness. 

4. Peppermint has become my new afternoon coffee and has also replaced hay fever tablets. My hay fever used to be off the charts. Not anymore. But when it does flare up, I press a drop of peppermint oil on my hard palate, which relieves it almost instantly. When I experience an afternoon slump, I inhale a drop of peppermint as a pick me up, which will get me through a night of teaching.

5. On Guard has now become my natural cleaning solution and my saviour in the studio. I’m pretty much diffusing it in the studio every day to avoid germies. I use it too to clean my microphone after every student. It also smells like a natural version of ‘juicy fruit’.

I could seriously keep going on and on about them, which, don’t you worry, I plan to do!

For now, I want to alert you to the fact that with every Home Essentials Kit purchased before 1 January, you get a free bottle of Frankincense, which is worth $119.

In the Home Essentials kit, you get 15ml bottles of:

-       Frankincense

-       Lemon

-       Lavender

-       Peppermint

-       On Guard

-       Tea Tree

-       Oregano

-       Easy Air

-       Ice Blue (5ml)

-       A diffuser

-       An enrolment pack that entitles you to wholesale prices (25% off) for a year.

 
Essential Oils, Vocal Health
 


So if you get in purchase the kit today or tomorrow, you get an addition Frankincense.

All of this for $330. If you bought this all individually with the enrolment pack ($35), you’d pay $477.

So this is incredible value!

You also get a free 1hr Wellness Consultation with me, including access to an incredible member’s only Facebook group, with over 3000 members, for your ongoing oils support and education.

You will also be a part of a natural wellness revolution that is, quite frankly, taking over the world.

So to order your home essentials kit, go to:

Go to: www.mydoterra.com/mellathouras

– Select ‘Join & Save’

– Select ‘Local’

– Select ‘Wholesale Pricing’ or ‘Wellness Advocate’ (by clicking on Wellness Advocate opens you up to the possibility of getting your oils for free and/or earn commissions.)

– Enter your details

– Choose the Home Essentials Kit plus fractionated coconut oil.

– Bob's Your Uncle! Your kit will arrive within 4-10 business days!

- Please shoot me a quick email to introduce yourself hello@fearlesssinger.com so I can organize your Wellness Consult and connect you with the members-only Facebook groups. 

If you need help with any of the above, please give me a call on 0447 016 546.

Here's the link again => www.mydoterra.com/mellathouras

Remember, you only have 24hrs to get the free Frankincense! I can guarantee you, you’re going to LOVE frankincense so you will be sorted for quite a while with two bottles!

Happy New Year!!  I will be in touch very soon!

Love

Mel X

Can Yoga Improve Your Singing? Spoiler Alert: The Answer is Yes

Brisbane Singing and Yoga Teacher - Sarah Collyer

Brisbane Singing and Yoga Teacher - Sarah Collyer

Have you ever thought of doing yoga but the idea of floundering about with the poses in front of a group people puts you off?

Well you’re not alone mate! I’ve been there, many times over.

The thing is, the more times you go, you soon realize that the only person in the room judging you is YOU!

Anyway, I digress… I wanted to let you know that after months and months of not going to yoga, I finally forced myself to go on a particularly rainy night in Brisbane.

I drove through ridiculous traffic with a foggy rear view mirror (haven’t worked out how to use my demister yet), having near misses with buses, to finally arrive at the studio feeling pretty edgy, to say the least.

However as soon as the class started and we sang Gershwin’s Summertime as a group while doing gentle stretches, I felt the irritation melt away and I was engulfed by a sense of calm.

Singing? I hear you ask.

Yes, you heard right. I went to a singing yoga class. And it was AHHH-MAZING!!!!!   

My voice felt incredible after I left and I came out feeling like Maria in the iconic mountain top scene in the Sound of Music.

 Anyhow, to give you a better idea of the class, I had a chat with singer and yoga teacher Sarah Collyer in today’s Fearless TV episode. She is the master mind behind this genius concept.

 

Once you’ve had a chance to watch it, I would love to hear from you!

Is this something you’d consider incorporating into your daily routine?

How could you incorporate stretches into your daily singing practice?  

Please leave your comments in the blog post!

If you are keen to catch a class, it’s on Monday nights 6:30-7:30pm, 3/233 Albert Street in the city.

For more info, you can go to Sarah’s Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/breathebodymindandvoice/

 

  

Our Mind is our Singing Instrument: Establishing Healthy Beliefs about our Voice

There is a lot of information out there about how to take care of your singing voice but did you know it is equally important to look after your mind?
 
In fact, singing is a neuromuscular activity, which means that our brain is essentially our instrument. It tells our body what to do in order to make the sound we want (and to make sound full stop).

So we need to be aware of what we think and say about our voice as well as our ability to use it.

I'm a big believer that our thoughts and words shape our experience. Our subconscious mind is extremely powerful and pretty much runs the show, which we call ‘our life’. Therefore, what we say and believe to be true about our singing voice is what we are going to experience.

Let's go deeper here... What is the first thing that pops into your head when you think about your voice?

Is it words and feelings such as: "Oh I love it!"; "It's unique"; "It's strong"; "I'm getting better at developing my voice. I can hear an improvement every day."?

Or does your inner monologue sound more like this:   "I'm tone deaf!"; "I can't sing to save myself!"; "I can't hear any improvements. I should give up.”?

If it’s the latter, just giving you the disclaimer now, I’m going to get all Louise Hay on you.
 
Keep reading if you like all this self-love stuff…
 
I can tell you from personal experience not to give up – YOU CAN improve your voice by adopting a set of healthy beliefs. That means loving the shizzle out of your voice, despite it’s apparent weaknesses.
 
Let me tell you a story. In the past, I struggled with a weak chest voice, which makes it pretty difficult to sing contemporary music, especially jazz. I struggled to sing notes below a middle C and sometimes on a gig these notes would completely disappear.   

This caused me a lot of frustration. It didn’t matter what exercises my singing teacher (a head honcho, internationally renowned vocal pedagogue in contemporary music) gave me to strengthen my registration, my body was not complying. And why? At the time, I had no idea either, which of course kept feeding my frustration and to be honest, sadness.  
 
When I got to a particularly low point (excuse the pun!), I realized that I had some major self-enquiry work to do. And what did I discover? An icky web of beliefs that can be summed up as:

  • I didn’t believe I could change.

  • I didn’t believe the exercises would work for me.

  • And that my voice was inherently flawed.

So What do you do when you get to this point?
 
You start to exercise your love muscle! And I don’t that mean in a sexy-time kind of way. Moving on quickly…
 
I mean that you start practicing thinking and saying positive things about your voice.
 
That doesn’t mean proclaiming “I sound like Whitney Houston, therefore I am!”, when you are still developing your sense of pitch. On a side note, it’s always best to sound like yourself but that’s another blog post.
 
It means saying things to yourself that you will actually believe straight off the bat. You need to see it as those you are trying to brainwash a sceptic. Therefore, it will be easier to believe affirmations like, “I don’t care what my voice sounds like, it’s cool. It’s me. Bob Dylan or Marianne Faithful don’t have the most polished sounding voices, they have things to say and they do it well.”   
 
Or:   
 
         “I like how my voice sounds in the higher register.”
 
                 “This song suits my voice.”
 
                      “I like learning about how to build my voice.”
 
                         “I’m starting to hear some improvements.”
 
                            “It makes me happy and fulfilled that I’m even pursuing this.”  
 
Eventually your negative beliefs will begin to morph into positive ones and that is when the real magic starts to happen, my friends.
 
Your new beliefs will just get stronger and so will your voice. Your body will begin to integrate your technique practice, which will continue to reinforce your positive beliefs. It’s the gift that keeps giving!
 
Of course from time to time, negativity will rise it’s unfortunate looking head. But see it as an opportunity to do some weeding and the planting of new pleasing thoughts.  
 
More on this… I was at a Vince Jones workshop once. If you don’t know who he is, Google him, he is an incredible musician, national icon and top bloke. Anyhow he made reference to a wonderful piece of wisdom from David Suzuki which went along the lines of “Your body will do what you ask it to do, and why, because your body loves you”.
 
And as for me and my weak low register… Well I continue to strengthen it daily however it has become much stronger than it was. I no longer see it as an issue and those notes below a middle C stay put over a three to four-hour gig.  
 
Now I want to hear from you – have you stopped ‘hating on your voice’ and learned to love it quirks and all? Have you seen major improvements in your singing practice and life through changing your mindset?

Please leave a comment below! I'd love to hear from you!