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HOW SINGING CAN HELP YOU BE BRAVE

Oh G'day!

Oh G'day!

I told my Fearless Singer posse last week that I would be making this blog post about being courageous and how singing can help us tap into that powerful emotional state of being.

Here it is!  I wanted to post it before my Courageous Masterclass that I held at the Happiness Hub in Brisbane last Saturday. But I’m glad I left it to divine timing because I have a lot more to say on the matter.

Last week, I filmed a little video of me riffing on the subject on what it means to be brave. I had started writing this post and then it occurred to me to put my money where my mouth is and do something that I find confronting.

I’ve never expressed this before, but I find that filming myself speaking is one of the most painful experiences for me, akin to watching Donald Trump’s hair blow in the breeze. Yes, it’s that eye-gouging with hot rods kind of painful.

Why? I’m a recovering perfectionist. Every little stutter or clumsy way of saying something, irks me to tears. Those videos I put out last year took me AGES to do! I would stop and start, throw myself on the floor in a fit before editing the dear life out of them. That’s why there a lot of unnatural pauses and weird facial morphing going on. *On a side note – I’m moving these videos from Vimeo to YouTube.

But I’m learning to love the fact that while I can be an incredible communicator that I’m also a little awkward and clumsy with my speech at times. I’m choosing to accept that this where I am at this point of time.

Also, my intention is always to serve. And if I keep aligning myself with this every time I speak, write, sing – it’s always going to be enough. Because…

Powerful Affirmation Time

I AM ENOUGH! Get this affirmation into ya, will ya! It’s super redic powerful.

It reminds you that wherever you are at this point of time in your life, whatever your skill set is: YOU ARE ENOUGH.

And mate – while you are not fixating on all the supposed shit things about yourself and your abilities, you are in a much better place to learn and improve upon your craft.

So how do we ingrain this belief into our being?

Try singing it! Seriously! I will play a riff on the piano or guitar and will sing ‘I am enough’ over and over again. You can also turn the affirmation into a beautiful art work and put it in a prominent place in your house so that you keep reminding yourself every time you look at it.  

Anytime a nasty thought comes up about yourself, others or the world – obliterate it instantly by taking a deep breath and saying ‘I am enough.’

Funny enough (see what I did there?), it’s about practicing it repeatedly so that it becomes a habit and you start viewing yourself and the world around you with a sweeter pair of lenses.

When you do this, you are connecting to a higher truth that trumps all trivialities and helps you become fully present. And when we are fully present – watch out – we are operating from an uber creative, powerful space. To everyone else watching you, you are being ‘brave’ but in fact you are just being more of yourself. Please take a moment now to let that last sentence sink in. That's right, bravery is the by product of simply allowing you to be more of yourself. 

Anyhow… here’s the video.

Also, here’s some pics from last weekend’s masterclass.

 

I can’t express to you how grateful and humbled I was to work with these eight incredible women. This masterclass was also a life changer for me. I’ve decided that all I want to do now is help people LOVE their voices. My tag line for the last year or so has been ‘Find Your Voice, Live a Life You Love’. I’m changing it now to ‘LOVE your Voice’. Why? Because ‘finding our voices’ is really about learning to love ourselves. It’s going straight to the truth of the matter.

When we shift our focus onto our strengths and love the shit out of our weaknesses, this is when we start uncovering our gems, including our unique voice.

By the way – one of the ladies of the workshop had a massive revelation and declared to the group and the Universe ‘I want to be heard.’  She is a very talented singer and has always wanted to study opera. She auditioned for the Conservatorium earlier this week to do an alternative pathway program and she was accepted. I can’t tell you how much my heart expanded when I heard the news. #superproudteachermoment

 

Anyhow - remember, YOU & YOUR VOICE ARE ENOUGH

Keep you eyes fixated on those grand plans of yours. They can happen.

 
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You're Ageless! Start Living Your Dream/s

I was 27 and living in London when I decided to leave the corporate world behind, come home to Australia and study music full-time. And I have to say, it was not an easy decision to make.

Firstly, I wasn’t certain I could create a sustainable living in it -  I’d been playing keys and singing in garage bands for years and was lucky to make $50 at a gig.

I was also making good money in my media/marketing jobs at the time. They gave me nice titles and opportunities to move up the corporate ladder.

But truth be told, it wasn’t just the fear of leaving behind the cushy lifestyle that was stopping me, it was a belief so ingrained into my psyche that I had to do some major excavation work to shift it…

It was the insidious, false belief of ‘I am too old for this.’

Luckily my intuition prevailed. Despite my fear, I auditioned and was accepted into a Bachelor of Music in Jazz. Thus beginning my life as an enterprising and extremely fulfilled student for the next three years.

From time to time, the ‘I’m too old’ belief would raise its ugly head throughout my degrees but I forged ahead regardless.

So what made me take the leap?

  • I was fortunate to discover the amazing jazz singer and musician Melissa Forbes who had quit law to study music at 27. She has crafted an incredible career in music and her story played a big part in my decision - she was and still is my inspiration!
     

  • My Mum (also known as Sage or Guru) reminded me of my ‘single, no dependent or financial responsibility’ status. Thanks for rubbing salt into that wound Mum – it worked!
     

  • I also drew inspiration from her story. Mum changed her life at 38 years old when she decided to finish high school, earning her Senior Certificate. She was the first in her family to study at University and became the legendary primary school teacher she is today.
     

  • I pictured myself five to ten years down the track feeling even more miserable and stuck in an unfulfilling career. The thought gave me heart palpitations and was the impetus I needed to ‘dive off the deep end’.

Age – what about it?   

Why does age always seem to be a good reason not to pursue our dreams or even take up new skills or hobbies?

I’m always surprised by the amount of talented people in their early 20’s who come into my singing studio thinking it’s too late to have a career in music.  There’s this idea out there that one needs to ‘make it’ before they turn 20 in order to be successful.

I am equally surprised when a 60 something year old thinks it would be silly to take up singing as a pastime, even though they have always wanted to. Or they think it’s too late to do something about a business idea that has been burning inside them for 15 years. I know 60 plus year olds who are creating exceptional careers as singers and creative entrepreneurs. I also have 60 plus year olds learning singing from me, just for the joy of it.

The truth is, we’re ageless…

In Dr Christiane Northrup’s book Goddesses Never Age: The Secret Prescription for Radiance, Vitality, and Well-Being she argues that it isn’t such a bad thing to lie about your age, even to yourself. In fact, you may prolong your life, if you do.

She says, “In a sense, we have a shelf life. Structures on the tips of our chromosomes called telomeres, which are like wicks on sticks of dynamite, grow shorter when cells divide.

"When the wick gets small enough, cells no longer receive the instruction to replicate and their death follows.”

Dr Northrup states however we can “actually reverse aging by improving our ability to repair and lengthen our telomeres.”

She mentions that good lifestyle plays a part in this, including eating a healthy diet and engaging in stress management activities such as meditation and exercise, but she argues that a healthy mindset about our age also plays a major factor in our longevity.

She argues, “…the belief in the positive aspects of aging strongly affects your biology and thus your survival.”

Dr Northrup further states, “Your beliefs and thoughts are wired into your biology. They become your cells, tissues, and organs. There’s no supplement, no diet, no medicine, and no exercise regimen that can compare with the power of your thoughts and beliefs. That’s the very first place you need to look when anything goes wrong with your body.”

So if we believe ourselves to be ageless then our body will match up to this belief.  And therefore should no longer be an excuse to put our lives on hold.

So the question now is - what’s the first step you’re going to take towards living your dreams?   

Making a big drastic step like quitting your job in order to pursue your dream, isn’t always the best option for everyone. I had no responsibilities therefore if my plan was to go ass up – it wasn’t going to be the end of the world. Although, I must say I did land on my face a few times (I’ll spare those details for another blog post), but these moments just spurred me on. 

Some of us need to ease our way into achieving our goals, one step at a time. This approach is particularly helpful when our dreams are big and perhaps a little overwhelming. So we start with the obvious and the easy.

If your goal is to learn French so you can live in Paris for three months out your year, you could start by downloading a language learning app like Memrise or enrol at language school in your area.

You may decide to dedicate an hour a day reading blogs written by expats living in Paris - my favourite is Messy Nessy Chic – or researching the logistics of living in another country. 

Your next goal may be to save up for a holiday to study French for a month in Paris or go rural to make it cheaper.

Do you see where I’m going here?

Break that goal down into do-able chunks! The important thing is you need to take the action steps towards it.

And for Goodness sake – if the thought pops up that ‘you’re too old for this’, tell it to ‘eff off… I’m an ageless Goddess.’

Now I want to hear from you – have you stopped using age as an excuse to not live the life you want? Comment and tell me your story! I would love to hear from you.