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Five Tips on How to Overcome Procrastination and Stick to Your Singing Practice | EFT Tapping

Oh G’day
 
A question for you - did you sing this week?
 
Even if you sang in the car or in the shower or with your mates at karaoke, this makes me so happy!
 
It makes me happy to know that despite whatever may be going on in your life right now, you allowed yourself to feel joy and/or relief for those times that you were singing this week.
 
This is what singing gives us - an opportunity to connect to ourselves and to the present moment. Singing can teach us what happiness really is.
 
In this week’s episode of #FearlessTV, I give you my top Five Tips to Stop Procrastinating and Start your Singing Practice as well as an EFT Tapping session to help you commit to a daily routine.
 
If you grew up taking piano or singing lessons, chances are you have a negative connotation of the word 'practice'. It was drilled into us by our teachers – “practice makes perfect”. I don’t know about you, but I would often turn up to my singing lessons feeling super guilty because I had done next to no practice because a) I wasn’t quite sure how or what to practice or b) I would procrastinate and not get around to doing it.
 
This episode will help you redefine practice and give you some very practical tips on how to get started and how to structure a singing practice session. 
 
There is also a bonus EFT tapping session at the end. If you do this every day for the next week, I guarantee you that any blocks that you may have had about practicing will be gone.
 

This week's episode: <<Link in the picture>>

Anyhow let me know how you go by leaving me a comment.
 
Love
Mel
 
P.S. Could you please do me a favour? If you haven’t already, could you please subscribe to my YouTube channel. If I get 100 subscribers, YouTube will give me my own personalised URL, which will make it easier to get my channel out there to more viewers to help spread this Singing Positivity Movement.  
 

P.S.S The next video in my Beginner Singer’s Course will be in the Student Portal later tonight. You get access to this when you book in for your first singing lesson with me.

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Overcome the Fear of Singing in front of Others with EFT Tapping

Photo by&nbsp; Ron Smith &nbsp;on&nbsp; Unsplash

Photo by Ron Smith on Unsplash

This week instead of writing you a blog post, I have made a video showing you a powerful technique to overcome the fear of singing in front of a person/people.
 
I have found that during my career as a singing teacher, when students first come to a lesson, they are super nervous. I have even had some students look as though they are going to either be physically ill or bolt out the door.
 
I can 100% relate to this. When I began my lessons at JMI (Jazz Music Institute) and the Conservatorium, I felt exactly the same way.  
 
In fact, it took me five or six lessons to feel as though I could be myself as well as sing like myself in front of my teachers. 
 
When you boil it all down, it really is the fear of being judged and/or confirmed that you’re not good enough.
 
In this episode, I will show you a practice called Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) that can obliterate any old patterns and beliefs that are holding you back from A) starting your singing journey and/or B) filling you with massive doubt about your ability.

Please let me know how you go with tapping. Look, you may feel like a galah at first, but I promise this will bring amazing results. 

Talk to you next week! 

Mel X

P.S. The next video in my Beginner Singer’s Course will be in the Student Portal later today. You get access to this when you book in for your first singing lesson with me.

P.S.S. Are you on instagram? I share a lot (perhaps too much) over there on subjects such as singing, creating, business and my air fryer cooking. Come on over! https://www.instagram.com/mellathouras/

Make Love not War with Procrastination

Image by Luis Llerena

Image by Luis Llerena

I have always held a very narrow, judgemental view on Procrastination. It’s always been the ‘bad guy’ of my life story. Like how Bruce Lee had a demon Samurai, I too have felt like I’ve been in combat with an invisible force. 

I guess ‘combat’ is the wrong word because that does imply some sort of action and up until recently I have been the Queen of Minimal Effort. So Zen, in fact, that you could often find me staring at a wall for hours to avoid any kind of productivity.

But a few hours before a deadline, look out world; I become a captain of an out of control cruise ship, heading straight towards shore at a thousand miles per hour, only narrowly escaping impact. (Yes, a bit dramatic, but please continue to indulge me…)

Up until recently, I was bewildered why I would cause myself so much anxiety. And not only that, allow myself to get mediocre results in life when I know I am capable of so much more. 

I was also perplexed that I would begin my postgraduate studies this year and continue the same reckless behaviour.  And yes, naïvely, I did expect this childhood habit to miraculously disappear now that the academic stakes were much higher. I would suddenly become the prolific scholar of my dreams. 

Driven to get to the bottom of this, I decided to go to Hypnotherapist/Counsellor/Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) extraordinaire Marie Element.

Marie believes procrastination stems from many things however can often be a fear of failure or perhaps a deep desire to be doing something else. 

When I asked her how hypnotherapy could help sufferers of this menace saboteur, she said: 

“With procrastination, there is always some subconscious process that is getting in the way of success. Our subconscious always acts in our best interests, and is usually trying to protect us from something, e.g. failure.

“Using hypnotherapy I work with the subconscious to enable it to find and use other, more helpful strategies that do not get in the way of success.” 

After hearing this, it was like an anvil dropped on my head. (That, by the way, has always been my brutal way of describing a moment of great epiphany.) Procrastination suddenly becomes like an over protective, slightly nutty but well meaning mother instead of this antagonistic ninja. 

Better still procrastination isn’t something external at all - it’s just a behaviour that we can adjust or simply become more aware of. And dare I say it? We could afford to make friends with this part of ourselves. Experience has taught me that when we are kinder to ourselves, behaviour like procrastination becomes a real opportunity for self-growth. 

Helpful Tips

One Small Chunk at a Time  

I told Marie that I was struggling with starting quite a substantial assignment. 

She said, “This is often a result of feeling somewhat overwhelmed by the task when thinking about it in totality.

“The trick then is to identify a small, manageable first chunk and focus on successfully completing that. 

“Once you've had that victory, it will be easier to pick off the next small chunk.

“Oh, and it's REALLY helpful to write down the title of the first little chunk, say in a diary, and put a date beside it. There is power in writing down your goal and giving it a written date.” 


Pomodoro Technique

I feel the need to mention that I am an avid reader of spirituality and self-help books and blogs. It’s my dope. There I said it… 

I recently found a great article on one my of my favourite blogs called Puttylike.com about the Pomodoro Technique. 

The Puttylike creator and blogger Emilie Wapnik wrote: “I actually started out using the Pomodoro Technique where I’d take breaks every 20 minutes or so. After 20 minutes, I was ready for a break and that was when I was allowed to check twitter or Facebook. But after my break, I get back to work on whatever it is I want to work on, whether that was the first activity or the next one, always focusing on that one task at a time.”  (Read her article here.) 

So I have been identifying the chunks, as Marie suggested, getting my timer out for 25 minutes. I suggest taking five-minute breaks in between and after four 25-minute ‘chunks’, take a longer 15-minute break. You would be so surprised at home much work suddenly gets done! 


Flare Ups

Procrastination lies dormant and will flare up under times of stress or for no seemingly obvious reason at all. I still often fight the urge to sit and watch Tattoo Nightmares instead of finishing an assignment or practice my songs. My body will feign lethargy so that I feel like I have a valid excuse to indulge in this rubbish TV. As mentioned previously, it’s about bringing awareness to these moments and gently asking yourself why you are feeling this way. 

The question I like to ask myself in these moments is: am I loving myself right now by avoiding this task? This question prompts me to realize that I’m actually causing myself more stress, which is really painful and detrimental to my health so therefore is not a loving act. 

Sometimes I do feel like my subconscious is a small child and I am constantly teaching it structure and boundaries. This perhaps may be a part of me for a while but for now I am equipping myself with strategies so that I can keep my confidence in tact to keep kicking my goals. 

 

Now I’d LOVE to hear from you. Please comment below and tell me your procrastination story or any tips you have learnt along the way.